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Dear Katie,

I have good technique, but I carry a lot of tension in my wrists and hands—they look like claws! How can I fix them?


Dear Kayleigh,

This is such a common problem. At the School of American Ballet, we were taught to separate all five fingers, so we didn’t look like mannequins. To achieve that look without getting into claw territory, pretend you’re gently cradling a golf ball in the palm of your hand. If you imagine holding anything bigger (a softball, an orange), your fingers will tense up. Aim for a subtle, soft roundness—which will help with wrist tension, too.

Also, make sure your hand always follows your arm, rather than the other way around. For example, when moving from second position to bras bas, the elbow should lead the way, followed by the wrist and hand. That prevents stiff “Barbie arms.” Maintaining a sense of resistance in your port de bras—as though your arms are moving through water—will help those transitions happen naturally.

Dear Katie,

I love dancing, but it’s such a huge time commitment, and I’m always canceling on my non-dance friends. Is it worth missing things like prom for dance? Am I going to have regrets?


Dear Mikaela,

Sacrificing “normal” high school experiences is a problem every serious dancer faces. And we all react differently when asked to choose between our dance lives and our non-dance lives.

If you’re feeling bad about missing football games and dances, that’s OK! In fact, evaluating those feelings can help you figure out if you want to pursue dance professionally. As a professional, you’ll constantly be expected to give up “normal” experiences for your job. Your life will revolve around dance; your social life will center on rehearsals and performances with your colleagues.

If you decide that’s not what you want, you’ve learned something valuable about yourself. And if you decide that is what you want, you’ve learned something just as valuable. The most important thing is that you’re happy and fulfilled in the path you ultimately take. 

For what it’s worth, I don’t regret any of it. I always wanted to be in class or rehearsal—I’d have been far more worried if I’d had to miss class to attend prom! Most of my best friends were dancers, so I didn’t feel like I was missing all that much. Whenever I’d get a little pang of doubt, I’d work on reframing my thinking. For example, I may not have gone to “official” prom, but my version of prom was wearing a tutu onstage with New York City Ballet. Not too shabby!

Dear Katie,

I’m almost six feet tall (6' 6" on pointe)! I’m frustrated—I’m put in the back of every group, and none of the guys are tall enough to partner me. Do I have a future in ballet?


Dear Amelia,

Oh, what many dancers wouldn’t give for an extra few inches of leg! I’m sure you look stunning onstage. But I know this is a “grass is always greener” situation, and I understand that being a tall dancer can pose problems, too.

I definitely think you have a future in ballet. Companies tend to look at technique and artistry first, and then worry about height. My advice would be to seek out companies that already have taller dancers—companies you know will have no qualms about taking a beautiful Amazon. Many European groups have very tall women, and Pacific Northwest Ballet and The Joffrey Ballet have lots of leggy dancers, too.

The most important thing you can do right now is “dance your height.” Don’t try to shrink yourself; slouching and slumping are never pretty. If you stand tall, the audience will be drawn to you—and company directors will be, too. Be proud of those legs!

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Dear Katie,

I think I'm ready to move up a level—my dance classes aren't challenging me. But how can I talk to my teacher about that? I'm nervous.


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Dear Katie,

My parents have been supportive of my dancing through high school, but now I want to audition for professional companies, and they just don't understand. They want me to apply to colleges—they don't see dance as a "real" career. How can I convince them that this is what I'm meant to do?


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Dear Katie,

My extensions are totally uneven. I’m great to the front and side with my right leg, but can barely reach 90 degrees in arabesque, and my left leg is strong in arabesque but weak to the front and side. What can I do to balance myself out?


Dear Stephanie,

I had exactly the same problem—in fact, almost every dancer does! Most people are naturally a little lopsided. The solution is to develop both your flexibility and your strength. For your arabesque, focus on working the large muscles in your back, which will help you support every inch of the height you do have in arabesque. Odds are good that your left hip is tighter than it should be, too, which can limit your range of

motion to the back on the right side. Use a tennis ball or foam roller to loosen up that left hip joint, and you might find that your arabesque rises an inch or two.

Opposition is equally important when it comes to front and side extensions. So, to improve your leg height to the front and side on the left, work on strengthening your right leg and hip, and stretching and rolling out your left hamstring.

I’ve found that Pilates is especially great for the kind of back and hip strengthening that benefits extension. Explain the issues you’re having to your Pilates teacher, and ask if she can create a customized set of exercises for you. You also might want to have a teacher or physical therapist look at your alignment, to make sure there aren’t larger technical or physical issues to blame for your unevenness.

Dear Katie,

I go to the same high school as two girls from my dance studio. They’re really friendly with me in dance class, but at school, they’re completely different—they either ignore me or make fun of me. It’s so confusing and upsetting. How can I deal with their two-faced behavior?


Dear Sadie,

Even good friendships can be complicated, but it sounds like these girls aren’t true friends. I’d suggest dealing with them carefully. Always be friendly and polite, but don’t waste energy trying to understand their motives. Think of them as acquaintances, not allies. If their cattiness starts to bleed into your studio relationship, and they try to gossip with you about other girls in dance class, don’t engage with them.

Hard as it is, try not to take their nastiness personally. Two-faced people are usually very insecure. Frequently their negativity stems from jealousy, or from a need to put others down to make themselves feel better. Stand tall and be proud of who you are.

Dear Katie,

Even after a big growth spurt last year, I’m still barely 5 feet tall. I hate being short! My arms and legs look so stumpy. Is there any hope for me in the professional dance world?


Dear Ellen,

I’m guessing you know the names Maria Kochetkova, Alina Cojocaru and Iana Salenko, right? All three of them are gorgeous, successful professional dancers—and all three of them are tiny! But they don’t let their height limit them. They dance tall, moving expansively and projecting upwards and outwards.

Use them as your inspiration. Make everything bigger, all the time. Stretch your limbs to the fullest. Instead of breaking your wrists or winging too much at your ankles, focus on creating continuous lines, which will help your arms and legs look longer.

Practically speaking, being shorter isn’t a bad thing. Sometimes it’s even an advantage. Finding a partner, for example, will never be an issue for you. And you’re probably great at lightning-speed choreography—the smaller you are, the easier it is to move quickly. There’s definitely hope for you in the dance world!

(photo by Jayme Thornton)

Former New York City Ballet soloist Kathryn Morgan answers your pressing dance questions.

Dear Katie,

I’m going to my first summer intensive this year, and I can’t wait! But I’m also really, really nervous. I’ve never lived away from home, and I’m not sure how I’ll measure up against the other dancers. What advice do you have about how to succeed at a summer program?


Dear Olivia,

Summer courses are such great opportunities to improve your training. But it’s normal to be nervous—you certainly aren’t alone!

First, don’t let the scale of your summer program overwhelm you. Take things one day at a time. Rather than worrying about your jam-packed class schedule or getting intimidated by all the other dancers at the intensive, focus on your own progress in each individual class. Make an effort to live in the moment.

Be proactive about making friends, too. Many dancers are naturally shy, but if you keep to yourself, it’ll be a long, lonely summer. And you have so much in common with the other students! They have the same goals and dreams that you do, and you’re all in this crazy summer experience together. Be each other’s sounding boards. It’s nice to have people to talk to about your classes and the things you find challenging each day.

Finally, be memorable in a good way. Make an effort to absorb everything. Every class, every teacher, every correction (even the ones given to others)—take it all in. There will be days when you’re frustrated, but work to maintain a positive attitude, and always show respect for your instructors. Teachers correct you because they want to help you. Let them! Be the dancer they remember as ready, willing and eager. You never know what doors they might open for you down the road.

Dear Katie,

My older sister is also a dancer, and we train at the same studio. Sometimes it’s great,

but it can also be awful. The teachers like her better than me, and she knows it. It feels like we’re competing with each other all the time. I don’t know how much longer I can deal with the pressure. What should I do?


Dear Maddy,

That kind of direct comparison can be difficult to handle—it feels so personal. But remember, you and your sister are not the same person. You have your own special qualities!

Clichéd as it sounds, the key here is to focus on what you need to do to get better and stronger. As a professional, you’ll constantly be up against many other dancers, so it’s actually good that you’re being forced to learn how to depend on yourself. Figuring out how to cope with sibling rivalry now will give you the tools you need to handle the pressures of competition throughout your career.

If you feel like your teachers’ focus on your sister is hurting your training, set up a formal meeting with them. Ask about specific things you can do to improve. And it might be worth getting your parents involved in the discussion. They know you and your sister inside and out, so they understand the dynamics of your relationship better than anyone.

Dear Katie,

I have the world’s ugliest bunions. They make pointework incredibly painful! Is there anything I can do to make them go away? And if not, what’s the best way to cope?


Dear Angelina,

Ugh—I know from experience how painful bunions can be. The most important thing is to make sure your pointe shoes fit. Shoes that are too small or too big can irritate bunions, so getting refitted is a good idea.

That said, bunions usually begin to form because of the way your toes are squeezed in your shoes—even shoes that fit properly. While you’re dancing, try using toe spacers between your first and second toes to counteract some of that pressure. At night, wear five-toed pedicure spacers while you’re watching TV or doing your homework to stretch out your feet. (Even if you don’t have bunions, they feel so good.)

Take bunions seriously, because severe ones can be crippling. If the problem continues or worsens, talk to a podiatrist.


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