Dear Katie: How Do I Keep From Having a Studio Rivalry with My Sister?

Photo by Travis Kelley, courtesy Kathryn Morgan

In our "Dear Katie" series, former NYCB soloist Kathryn Morgan answers your pressing dance questions. Have something you want to ask Katie? Email for a chance to be featured!

Dear Katie,

My sister and I both dance at the same studio, which used to be really fun. But as we've gotten more serious about our training, things have become tense. We're competitive people, and since we're only a couple of years apart in age, we're often up for the same parts, which leads to a lot of awkwardness and frustration. What should we do?


Dear Rachel,

Sibling rivalries are always complicated. It's easier said than done, but the most important thing is to force yourself to think of your sister as just another student in class. Instead of letting jealousy take over (which will never help you, sister or not), assess her strengths honestly, and use them to inspire you to better your weaknesses. For example, if she's a good turner and you're not, analyze her pirouettes. What has she figured out that you could apply to your own turns? Change your mind-set, and everything else will follow.

You two may not dance together forever, but you'll always be sisters. Don't let a studio rivalry ruin the love you have for each other as family. Be excited for her when she gets good parts! Hopefully she'll take a cue from your behavior and be happy about your successes, too.

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